i think it needs to be a both/and to truly grow and bless all people. i was not raised in the church so i have a different idea of what it's all about. when my wife and i started to attend a large church we noticed that as we walked in the door - she went to the right, with the women, i was pulled to the left with the guys and our daughter was sent to 'the room" as she called it - only to comr togather as we were leaving - a family church that broke-up the family - interesting. now, i would agree that there may be times when breaking people into groups would be good - but the main problem we found is that it became a program. when we finally stood our ground and refused to "break-apart" we got strange looks and even fell out of fashion with some people.

balance is good, as long as we do not place more value on the plates we use on the scales -

pax
john